Comfortable Silences (Pt 1)

MIA
Don't you hate that?

VINCENT
What?

MIA
Uncomfortable silences. Why do we
feel it's necessary to yak about
stuff in order to be
comfortable?

VINCENT
I don't know.

MIA
That's when you know you found
somebody special. When you can
just shut up for a minute,
and comfortably share silence.

VINCENT
I don't think we're there yet. But
don't feel bad, we just met each
other.

In this day and age of cellphones, 2-way pagers, blackberries, smart phones, it’s very easy to get in touch with someone. I’m far from being a luddite, I embrace technology. And I truly think cellphones are one of the greatest inventions ever. Flat tire on the road? No problem, call up a tow truck (or a helpful handy friend) and you’ll be back wasting gas and annoying motorists in no time. Running late for a date or dinner party? No problem, call them up. JUST KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE ROAD OH MY GOSH LOOK OUT FOR THAT CAR! RED LIGHT RED LIGHT!

Ahem. Yeah, they’re usually useful, but obviously not all the time. And with the really latest technology (as of 2006), you can even find directions on your phone now. Very cool for those who get lost even in their own driveway.

It’s good to communicate. Couples need to communicate a lot, especially during arguments. Cross-functional teams need to communicate in order for milestones to be met. But sometimes, sometimes, it’s good to “just shut up for a minute and comfortably share silence.” BTW, the above exchange is from a little movie called “Pulp Fiction”. Why is it good to just shut up? Because our lives are going at electron speeds, and what are we doing? Talking our way through it all, talking and doing. And humans need to take steps to stop and rest, recharge the batteries. To just share the silence. It seems to be counterintuitive, but enjoying one another’s company is far more rewarding than even having a deep conversation. And I’m not just talking about relationships, this applies to friends as well. More later.


(Silence)